As I type these brief thoughts to men this Father’s Day weekend, know that I’m admonishing myself as well as those who will read this blog-post.

Today’s culture disparages men—making fun of them, attempting to sensitize them into femininity, and/or ridiculing them.  In contrast, the Bible articulates a view of manhood that is thrilling, adventurous, and challenging.

Here are my admonitions:

• Be adventurous in your faith.  Men like Abraham and Moses faced daunting tasks where the path in front of them was dark and uncertain.  But they both were able to walk in the light because they were ordering their steps by the light of the One whom they followed.
• Be a courageous warrior.  Men like Gideon and David fought and won glorious battles for their people.  They faced an enemy who appeared to be invincible, and yet they won because they were under orders from their Heavenly General.  There are too many weak-kneed, insecure men who claim the name of Christ.  The church needs men who are warriors for the truth and relentless in the face of culture, the devil, and sin in order to win the hearts of their families and stand strong in the gospel of Christ.
• Be a true man—a grown up man.  Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13 that when he became a man, he put away childish things.  Too many men (in terms of age) in our culture are nothing more than little boys with their toys (video games, hobbies, sports) that they have not outgrown.  Now, I’m an advocate of outlets and believe that men should have healthy outlets that can include some of the above activities.  But true men take ownership, get a job, earn a paycheck, develop responsible habits, and set aside the games of their childhood.  Our homes and our churches are handicapped by the boyish tendencies of many of the males in their congregations.
• Be a disciple and a leader of disciples.  The twelve men who followed Jesus could not help but pick up on Jesus’ character, habits, and nature.  Likewise, whenever we see Paul on his missionary journeys, he is always with others he is either teaching or learning from or both.  If you want to be a man who leaves a legacy, then find someone godly to emulate.  But don’t just learn from someone else, lead others to emulate your walk with Christ.  Not sure where to start?  Start by discipling your family. Lead in family devotions, pray together, even let your family catch you having your personal quiet time.
• Be chivalrous, attentive, and helpful in your home.  Eve was given to Adam to be his helpmeet.  In other words Adam and Eve were partners in the task of multiplying and ruling the earth.  That means for us to be godly men and fathers we should partner with our spouses in the roles and responsibilities in our homes.  Godly, adventurous men can do housework, change diapers, and can serve their wife instead demand to be served.  Biblical dads put the needs of their wives and children ahead of their own.
• Be a man known for the gospel.  Paul was indebted to preach the gospel.  His life’s mission was to take the gospel to the unbelievers across the Roman world.  There is no better legacy than an eternal one.  Great men, great husbands, great fathers are those who have won friends, co-workers, family members, sons, and daughters to Jesus Christ through the gospel.

Males tend to dream of challenges.  That’s just the way God made us.  To be a biblical man is a grand challenge—but a grand challenge that is eternally worthwhile.  Will you be a man in the image of our culture or a biblical man being transformed into the image of Christ?

There is no shortage of articles, books, discussions and debates regarding homosexuality in contemporary America. From potential free speech infringements like the baker who will have to bake wedding cakes for homosexual marriages, (article here) to Matthew Vines’ book God and the Gay Christian which argues that sexual orientation (as practiced by many homosexuals today) is a valid expression of love and marital union commiserate with biblical teaching, homosexuality and homosexual marriage is a trending and important topic. Albert Mohler and other professors at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary penned a response to Vines in God and the Gay Christian: A Response. A sampling of other articles related to this topic include thoughts by Albert Mohler, Owen Strachan, Charles Quarles and Kirsten Powers.

Mohler is correct. There is no “third way” or middle ground on this controversial topic. Evangelical Christians will be forced to take a position. Some, like Vines will attempt to reinterpret the Bible in order to make their case palatable for other believers. The difficulty with Vine’s strategy (as Mohler and others show) is that he refuses to accept the clear meaning of the texts and suggests that 21^st century homosexual orientation is something new and therefore unknown to the biblical authors. Representative of culture’s shifting view, Vines leaves readers with the option of rejecting the biblical statements on homosexual acts (which he is forced to concede are negative) in favor of an approach that subordinates the biblical position to that of culture’s new moralists—those claiming that acceptance of homosexuality and homosexual marriage as a lifestyle is required to be open minded.

The attempt to have Scripture as your authority while adopting the culture’s shifting acceptance of the validity of homosexuality as a lifestyle and marriage is inconsistent.   An examination of the biblical evidence on the subject (Genesis 19; Leviticus 18:22 and 20:13; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9 and 1 Timothy 1:10) combined with an overarching theology of marriage and its purposes (partnership, procreation, and pleasure) requires a view that homosexuality is a sin.

I believe this topic is both controversial and complex. Evangelicals should respond both publicly and personally while consistently holding these two perspectives in tension. The public sphere is our outspoken and/or political viewpoint.

For those who might think we ought to be silent on the topic, I must remind you that the biblical viewpoint has been consistent for more than 3,500 years (from Genesis or 2,000 years if you prefer dating from the completion of the NT).   The shifting views have come from those within the homosexual community. The Bible has not changed, culture has. To speak out is to simply respond openly in accordance with the biblical tradition.

The personal sphere addresses our relationships and interactions with homosexuals or those struggling with issues related to homosexuality. Both personally and publicly we must be willing to speak the truth (what the Bible says) in love (how the Bible says to communicate). I’m afraid many well-meaning Christians are good at speaking the truth and poor at doing so in love. Cue the phrase, “God hates the sin, but loves the sinner” (which is a poor way to communicate to those who find their identity in their homosexuality which we call a sin). I’m also afraid many well-meaning Christians show love without speaking the truth. In this scenario love appears to be outright acceptance not of the person, but of the sin as well.

This is a tension we as Christians should be familiar with and must embrace. The greatest embrace of this tension came at the cross.

• Want to see the truth about sin? Look at the cross. The cross displays God’s holiness and “hate” for sin (for all sin, not just the sin of homosexuality) on the cross. He punished severely His only Son for the sins of mankind. That is the truth about sin. God hates it so much that He would sacrifice His Son for us.
• Want to see love in action? Look at the cross. The cross also displays God’s matchless love for mankind. That He would punish His Son for our sin is love—a sacrificial, accepting, forgiving love that has no equal. In the cross, we cannot have love without truth or truth without love.

As such, in our personal and public views on homosexuality, we must not have truth without love or love without truth. After all, we’ve been certainly, actually, and eternally changed by the event of the cross. The cross is where the truth about God’s holiness and the beautiful sacrifice of God’s love met. Let our communication (public and personal) be enriched with the fragrance of the cross—truth and love.

If the Bible is to be our authority, we will articulate its view of homosexuality as a sin. If the Bible is to be our authority, we will compassionately and patiently learn from, listen to, and counsel those in our midst dealing with same-sex attraction. After all, hasn’t God in our past and God in our present dealt with each of us in a supremely patient and sanctifying manner concerning our sins. To practically apply God’s view of us to those around us, we must show the same manner of patience, grace, and love.

In reality we are not full of truth if we fail to show love and we do not show love if we fail to tell the truth. Love reached out to us while we were still sinners.   Truth revealed to us the desperate sinful condition that required God’s love to overcome. Jesus is Love; Jesus is Truth. Following Jesus today requires us to submit to the authority of His Word—in our understanding of what is true about sin, and just as importantly, in our application of love to those around us.